4 posts tagged “self-worth”
How does it make you feel to contemplate the fact that you are transparent? Does it push against your right to privacy? Do you believe your thoughts and intentions are private? You don’t have something to hide…or do you?
This is not a joke. This is real folks. There are plenty of people who can see right through you, right now. There are probably a few of them in your life. If that thought makes you just a little bit uncomfortable then you would benefit greatly from the information contained in this and my other blogs.
There are two ways in which this occurs. The first way is that we all give off many clues to our inner state and thinking through our words and actions. The second way is that some people are that psychic that they can read you clearly without even looking at you or ever having met you before.
Psychics are Watching You
Whoooooh…okay you caught me…I was intentionally trying to give you the heebeegeebees, there are no psychics watching you, not to my knowledge anyway. But through the course of your day, and probably nestled somewhere in your life are people who know if you are up to no good or not. They know if you have something to contribute or if you are just there for the taking. They know if you intend harm or love.
In my early thirties, even though I had already had a few psychic experiences myself, I was relatively unaware and skeptical about this side of life. That was until I met my late wife. We spent seven years together before she died in 1998 of cancer. There were so many experiences where she accurately read my mind and intentions, as well as the intentions of other people. I say she read me and others accurately because I was there. I knew what was what; I knew what I was hiding and what I was not facing. I would later get confirmation about the other people. We also studied with multiple spiritual masters who in great detail described the personality of people in our lives that they never met.
Stories of these times and what we learned can be found in my book Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story.
As I continued to study, practice and grow I too developed these abilities. Not to the same remarkable level as others I have known, but enough to amaze myself. And enough to give me a distinct edge in walking though life safely and in peace. I use my psychic abilities daily to make choices. My feelings are an indispensible guide that have lead me into an unforgettable life.
Your Words and Actions Expose You
Too many people look at the actions of others and then jump to incorrect conclusions. I know just how easy that is to do from personal experience. That comes from a negative, frightened or watchful place inside that is trying to protect us. A common example of this is when someone sees a woman flirting or in some way being sexual and labels her a sinner or lowlife whore.
Okay so we know that plenty of people jump to incorrect conclusion and are judgmental, but don’t let that discount the fact that people can read us by our words and actions. That would be a mistake. Given enough time the results of your words and actions will speak for you and about you. People who are paying attention will notice. Okay so not too many people are paying attention right? Sad but true, that is indeed right. But still, there are some people who are paying attention and they do notice.
One of the well known things about life is that we develop habits of behavior through repetition. (Psychologists, hypnotherapists, marketers all know this.) When a person begins to lie, and each time he continues, he reinforces the behavior until it becomes a habit. Soon lies slip out everywhere and they are noticed. If a person develops a habit of judging others, even if it is in the privacy of their own mind, soon the judgments will slip out in the form of words. The habit of thought becomes too strong and then the judgments are being spoken. And if others reinforce the same insane mental activity of being judgmental, then the words become actions.
Maybe while talking with you, face to face, a person is nice. But when they tell you about what happened between them and an ex-friend, they tell you heaps about themselves. The way they talk about another person exposes the habits of thought they hold. These thoughts were thought about enough by that person that they came out in words. People say, “Oh sorry, I don’t know why I said that.” But in truth they said it because they have thought it many times. It is very rare that a person says something that they have never thought about before. And those are the times that our divine nature is more clearly expressing itself through us. Not when we say something mean or stupid.
So when I watch someone stab another in the back, I wonder when they will do that to me. I know they have no respect for others, and no respect for themselves. If they try to explain how the other person deserved it then I know that they think some people are worthy and others are not, and that they don’t really know where their inherent worth comes from. They don’t know how their thoughts affect their future. In essence they don’t know the most important things a person should know about life. When someone complains to me that I have done such and such to them, yet I know that I have not, then I begin to wonder how many people they have done such and such to. People who complain about others are most often trying to shift the focus from themselves and onto others. In reality they are pointing out their own character defects.
An Example
A real life example of this was a friend who came to me to tell me about how her brother was lying about her and accusing her of cheating in a joint real-estate deal they had going. He made a very emotional scene in front of other family members. I asked her if she was trying to cheat and she said no. I then told her, “It is he who was trying to cheat you. I suspect this because of his emotional reaction. A person reacts strongly when they are out of control. When they are out of control they fall back on their programming, their repeated thoughts and behaviors. Your brother could only see that you were cheating him because in his world everyone cheats. Everyone includes himself.”
My friend replied, “Well that is interesting because that is the reason why I came to talk to you. I was about to sign some final papers to close out our dealings and we each were going to take our share. When I saw the numbers I looked at the original contract and he had modified it so that he would get a larger share in the property than he should.”
This point bears repetition…A person reacts strongly when they are out of control. When they are out of control they fall back on their programming, they repeat their thoughts and behaviors from previous experiences. This will tell you about who they are and it has no reflection upon you…unless you of course feel a strong attraction to hanging around with this particular person.
One of the reasons people can’t read things clearly is because their desires get in the way. You want or think you need something so badly that you are willing to look past the obvious and keep heading towards your goal. You become willing to believe someone’s words when their actions or prior words already communicated their true intentions. But if you think about it carefully you will know that you have known fact from fiction, many times in the past. Start paying attention and you will begin to understand when you are correct and when you are projecting your fears and worries on a situation.
What to do about it? I say you should be proactive and face your fears. Dive in and begin to deal with the places in life that you are not authentic. Your personality is your greatest asset. The quality of it determines what you will attract to yourself, the level of health you experience in the body, and the peace of mind that you experience. Put in the effort, pay attention to your thoughts, think only thoughts that make you feel good and your actions will flow from there. Make a loving harmonious outcome the intention you approach all of life with.
Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
image credits to peterbox
“Why is it when it’s on ’God’s time’ it seems that nothing is happening? At least nothing good.”
We are the ones to label things good or bad. There is no such thing as an absolute good or bad, life just is, and it is eternal. That which you are, always has been and always will be.
When people talk about God’s time what they are saying is that the specific things they want sometimes, oftentimes, or even most of the time, takes time…too much time for their taste so they call this God’s time. But these people are missing a key piece.
We always get what we want eventually…or our desires change due to the circumstances in our lives that help us clarify our goals and desires. The reason this is so is that we are all endowed with the creative aspect of God. We are co-creators with God.
The problem is with us. We don’t understand how to use our creative energy and we don’t even understand who we are. So the time it takes for us to create something we desire is the time it takes for us to learn how to create it, how to recognize it when it comes and how to stop blocking it when comes.
Let’s take relationships as an example. There are many people who want a really good juicy relationship. They want the right size, shape and attractiveness. They want the right income level, the right sort of disposition such as kindness or toughness, the right common interests, etc… But too often there is neediness mixed in with these desires. They need someone who will help pay the bills that overwhelm them, or they need someone who will be a good father to the child they already have, or they need someone who will make them feel special and important and loved.
This is not how life works, things and people don’t come to you based on your desperate needs. Like attracts like, dysfunctional people attract dysfunctional people, functional people attract functional people. You might say, “How insulting, I am a really nice woman and my last relationship was with an abusive man.” But I would say that although you might be a nice woman in one or two ways, you are still dysfunctional…you don’t believe you are worthy, or you don’t know how to stand up for yourself, or you don’t know how to tell the difference between a kind and loving person and a person who is abusive, or you don’t know that it takes abusive people a very long time to change and you are trying to change them, or that it takes a lot to get them to want to change, you don’t understand many things that you will learn from your painful relationship experience.
This learning happens in God’s time. Once you have learned all of these things, once you are the kind of person you want in your life, then you will have that sort of person in your life. The same is true with money, health, adventure.
This is why it is essential to be proactive in your efforts to grow. The more you grow, the more you become aware, the more you clear out the misunderstandings you hold about life, the greater the things you attract to yourself will be.
“Then why is it that I see so many screwed up people with good jobs, lots of money, and crazy women with such hot looking men?”
When we look at the surface of other people’s lives they can look really good and appealing. But you don’t know what lies below the surface. If they are indeed screwed up and crazy, then their real life will also be screwed up and crazy. One day they will get so messed up on drugs or too indebt or fool around one too many times that their whole world comes crashing down. They won’t know how to handle it either. Also they cannot really even appreciate the good life they have, because things are ultimately meaningless. If they stop for two minutes with nothing to do they will go crazy because their inner world is crazy. They need to keep forever busy to distract them from their craziness.
If you really understood the people you look at, if you knew their innermost thoughts and desires, you would see that what they have is a perfect match to their vibration. What they have matches their desires and it is teaching them the lessons they need to learn to move on to other unfulfilled desires they hold.
Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
image credits to ToniVC
I know this blog is going to piss some people off. But for all of you who are pissed off at the title and contents, consider this…this idea you keep spreading that God/Jesus/Whoever is out there and we are all separate miserable sinners lucky to be loved by God if we worship him and only him…this message is doing a huge disservice to yourself and to humanity. Why? Because you are delaying some people from realizing their godly self.
I AM GOD. YOU ARE GOD. These are quotes attributed to Jesus, “Do you not know that you are gods? What you do to the least of my brother you do to me. I and the Father are one.” And Psalm 46:10 which also comes from the much revered Bible says, “Be Still and Know that I am God.”
If one is still, stops the mind and goes into the knowing that in that stillness God can be found, then one can experience the “I am” as God. How can it be any clearer than this? “I am” the one who is still is the “I am” that in the stillness can know that they are God. This same thing has been taught by MANY masters worldwide. For those of you deeply involved in a religion such as Christianity or any other religion for that matter, you must realize that there have been more than one master who has walked this earth other than the one you worship. This possibility is available to you. You can master your own life.
People all over the world have become enlightened. People all over the world have experienced the realms of heaven first hand! People all over the world have healed others. People all over the world have raised the dead and have themselves risen from the dead. (See my stories of this in my blog Truth vs. the Bible halfway down into the blog.) People from all over the world, in different cultures, in different religions, and even of no religion, have experienced healing miracles and other phenomena that go way beyond rational explanation. If you discount wholesale the experiences of these thousands of people in favor of the religion you were brainwashed into you are indeed a fool. You have been fooled by a wolf in sheep’s clothing and you have limited yourself to physical experience, limited those who are influenced by you, and kept yourself and others from having a Godly experience of life. In my view of life this is the worst “sin” of all!
There was a time where I was groping in the dark…indeed still there is some darkness for me too. I used to read the magnificent stories of many masters who experienced all those things previously stated and wondered, “Can these things happen for me? Can I experience myself as God?” I want to tell you that it has indeed happened for me too. Now I am not saying I have mastered life to the extent some of these others have mastered life, but I have had some very deep and profound glimpses and I have made some deep and profound changes in my personality in the span of my lifetime so far. If you read my book, Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story , you will see a dramatic difference between the man I was in my thirties and the man who is writing these blogs. That is the result of experience and real change. And I continue to evolve and improve with each and every day. So can you! I am NOT unique. I am NOT special. If you admire me, I hope that you can admire your own self and will seek to experience the God within you. I have even had a couple of experiences of Samadhi, a deep state of meditation where the mind is bypassed and an absolute connection with God is established. In such a state I realized the truth that each and every one of us is indeed One and we are all God. This was a very real experience and it is what motivates me to push forward no matter what the expense to me is to help others in their healing. It is because I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are one with me and by helping you I am helping myself.
God is more than the connection between all living things. God IS ALL living things, all inanimate things too. God created all of Manifest Creation, from His own Self, and then moved Her own consciousness into creation to experience what He created. For plants and animals She created a group memory for each species. For humans however God created an individual and permanent memory and consciousness for each human being. This is what differentiates each individual from another, but it is still God who is the living being in each individual human being. The human being can and ultimately will discover that She is God and can move beyond this boundary of consciousness and memory to reunite with the wholeness of God and back into the limitation of the boundary anytime He chooses. (For more on this topic please read Evolution of a Soul. )
So I encourage you, wholeheartedly and with love…seek! Discover who you are. I’ll spoil the ending for you…You Are God! But in reality I spoilt nothing, because the intellectual knowledge that you are God is NOT the same thing as remembering that You Are God. Not by a long shot! Make it your intention to remember, and it will happen!
Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
You are living God’s life. Your experience is God’s experience. Forgetting any religious brainwashing you may have…What is it that God would enjoy experiencing through you? How is it you can give God the greatest joy and experience each and every day?
Hint…make time for yourself. Feel, don’t let the mind keep telling you “work, work, work!” Enjoy children, pets, nature. Take time to relax and know all is well. Take time to dream. Make love. And do work when it does feel good. Do whatever it is that feels good with the intention of giving God the best experience possible.
The conflicts in your life are about how…how to go about achieving what you want.
You know what you want. You just feel limited. Forget the how, you will eventually get everything you want or your wants will change.
Zina
Funny, I was telling a troubled co-worker these very words just this morning, only it wasnt a religious brainwashing but an abusive upbringing she is struggling to overcome. Sometimes I feel that I am the only one around me that ’gets it’, then I read this….I am a little dissapointed that there is no blog to comment on tho…
Thank you for, yet again, reminding me that we are all connected, and Im not the only one….Zina
I love Zina. I posted this as a bulletin only one day and it just so happened that she was telling the same thing to a friend that very day! Great minds think alike…(we all share the same mind because we are all one being!)
Zina is one of my dear friends on MySpace. She often leaves some very enlightening comments on my blogs. So do add her as a friend if you need more like minded people on your friends list.
Now Zina has her wish, this here is a blog to leave a comment on.
This blog is very true…if you think about it carefully, think about EVERY single wish you have had, every desire, every thought you repetively think, then you will realize that what you have in your life now is a perfect match to ALL of those thoughts and desires. So be careful what you think about, choose wisely what you desire, meditate, pray, and most of all follow your bliss. Let God move through you, live through you and let God experience the best life possible Through You!
Love and Blessings,
Michael Skowronski
Author of Unforgettable: A Love and Spiritual Growth Story
